It's Relational

In the previous blog, "Let's Talk About It", I mentioned how important it is to discuss mental health and its effects. Talking about the different struggles of mental health also helps you educate yourself for the relationships you will make in the future. There are times where people will experience different mental health struggles due to the unresolved issues of family members that came before them.

To give more insight, because you haven't acknowledged the struggles you've faced mentally, there's a strong possibility that you can manifest these feelings into your own child or significant other. Or maybe it has happened to you this way. We strive to get into relationships and have children, but skip over the self assessment prior to doing so. Do you expect to have a loving enviroment within your household, if you manifest your pain through unwarrented arguements with your spouse or child? Can you love someone the right way if you always shy away from tapping into your own emotions? Of course I understand that some people weren't raised in enviorments where expressing emotions healthily were important. It was all about survival. Success and a "clean" image is what mattered to some which is why they may pass this on to their own families.

We check ourselves so we don't have to pass down the different things that we've experienced. I will admit that it becomes more difficult because at times, families would rather not speak on any of their struggles. With that being said, they will also wonder why you are going through what you may be going through,but still pass it off as rebellion or a behavioural issue when in actuality, you are a reflection of their past. You could be carrying loads of emotional trauma and mental troubles without realizing where they oringinated because these are things that the people before you never acknowledged.

YOU are important and so are your feelings. A self check is important so you can acknowledge your pain and where it stems from. You can't shape a healthy relationship without doing so; whether it's with your child or significant other (even friends). Self awareness will be your key to breaking the cycle of unhealthy interactions with important people in your life. Unpacking your emotions and its associated pains may be overwhelming, but it's well worth it.

Song of The Week: The Curse is Broken by James Fortune & FIYA